50 Life Lessons

Mondays are hard. It’s difficult to get back to work after two blissful days without. I tend not to be my best self on Mondays. So when my sweet boyfriend sent me this motivating list today, I immediately wanted to share it: 50 Lessons from God Never Blinks by Regina Brett.

When writer Regina Brett turned 50, she reflected on the 50 lessons life had taught her in a newspaper column. She later expanded on these lessons in a book of personal essays (which you can find here if interested).  I love myself some good, long, inspirational content – but sometimes a quick saying is all it takes!

Below are my favorite 10 of Regina’s 50 lessons. Some of these I just really love, and others are lessons that I personally should make an effort to keep top of mind.

Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age.

The most important sex organ is the brain.

Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

What other people think of you is none of your business.

If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

 

Book Review: Unfiltered

I’ve been reading far more books than I’ve been reviewing lately, so I thought it was about time for me to share one here. Yesterday morning I wrapped up Unfiltered by model/actress Lily Collins.

This book is a chronicle of Lily’s life experiences. She hits a variety of taboo subjects in the hopes that sharing her experiences will help those facing similar challenges. Lily wants young women everywhere to realize they are not alone. She boldly shares about her lifelong struggle with eating disorders, her history of toxic relationships, and the insecurities that plagued her throughout her adolescence.

It’s clear that Lily tried to make Unfiltered as personal as possible, even including old family photos and other snapshots from the experiences she mentions.

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An inspirational or relevant quote from Lily is featured before every chapter. I foresee myself flipping back through these quotes just for some positive reminders!

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It takes courage for anyone to open up about their most personal thoughts and experiences, nonetheless someone who already faces public scrutiny as a side effect of their career. I applaud Lily for allowing her writing to be candid and herself to be vulnerable.

You can order a copy (on sale!) here.

Book Review: The Opposite of Loneliness

We don’t have a word for the opposite of loneliness, but if we did, I could say that’s what I want in life.

The Opposite of Loneliness was one of my favorite books I read in 2016 (and I read a lot of them), which is why it was the first book I pulled off of my shelf to review and share with you.

The Opposite of Loneliness is a compelling book with a tragic backstory. It’s the kind of book you read cover-to-cover even though it is a string of individual stories and essays. The author, Marina Keegan, was an English student at Yale. She was killed in a car crash in 2012, just days after graduating magna cum laude. Her family, friends and professors compiled this award-winning collection of her work to honor her memory. The book title is taken from an essay Marina wrote for the graduation issue of the Yale Daily News. I won’t spoil the content for you, but if you read anything at all from this book, read that essay.

We’re so young. We’re so young. We’re twenty-two year olds. We have so much time.

Right from the book’s Introduction, wherein Yale professor Anne Fadiman quotes a number of emails from Marina, I felt a connection with Marina and with the book. In her stories, you see the brilliance of her writing; but in her everyday emails, she’s a normal, young twenty-something who writes with the same passionate energy that I feel. Add this to the fact that her essay, The Opposite of Loneliness, hit me at the exact time in my life that she had been: a recent college graduate preparing to face life. I feel I might have to read this book again now (one year later) just to relive the experience.

I’ve listed a couple more of my favorite quotes from the book below. I invite you to order this book and bask in the wonderful work Marina left behind.

I will love for love and the rest will take care of itself.

It was subtle. Quick. But it said everything. Absolutely, absolutely everything.

 

 

So what is an “INFJ” anyways?

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I’m sure some of you are curious about my blog name – INFJacqueline. I’ve already been receiving questions as to what the INFJ portion of that stands for. I mention this briefly on my About page (quoted below), but I think the topic is worthy of a post in itself. So here goes!

If you don’t know what the “INFJ” in my blog name stands for, you’re probably slightly less nerdy than I am; it’s a nod to my Myers-Briggs personality type. INFJ‘s make up a pretty small portion of the population…in other words, we’re pretty rare sort of weird.

I’m a total geek when it comes to anything personality-related. Mostly because human behavior fascinates me. Also because I’m a researcher who likes to analyze, categorize, and understand things anyways. But I’m not the only one who is interested in this field…Back in 1943, Katharine Cook Briggs was so perplexed by her future son-in-law that she began researching different temperaments. She stumbled upon the work of Carl Jung (high school psychology class, anyone?) and her work began. The results of her study? The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®).

My MBTI type is INFJIntroversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), Judgment (J). My full personality profile is pictured below. My type makes up an estimated one percent of the population, but that didn’t stop INFJ’s such as Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa from leaving their mark.

You can find a ton of information detailing each personality type online. Here are some links specific to mine:

If you want to check out your own personality type, there’s a good (free) test here. Enjoy!

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